FOR BETTER OR WORSE

They say 1 out of every 2 marriages will end in divorce.

They say finances are the #1 reason marriages fail.

They say many marriages fail when they are dealing with a disabled child.

STRIKE 1:  My husband and I let's just say have seen better days financially.

STRIKE 2:  Our 13 year old son has Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy.  He is now in a wheelchair and seems to be getting weaker by the minute.

My way too intelligent 8 yr. old daughter Tatum, informed me in so many words yesterday that her dad and I fight way too much and she is experiencing high anxiety because of it.   Cody, my 15 yr. old rolls his eyes every time Charley and I get into another argument.

All odds seem to be against us.  We look at each other and we just don't know what to say besides what we need from the other and what we can't stand about the other.  We are hurting.  We feel insecure in life right now.  We are scared.  And we are treating each other as though we are each others' enemy.

Aren't we supposed to be partners?  Each others' helpmate?  Each others' comfort?  Isn't it supposed to be us against the world, not us against each other?

Three things we can agree on right now.  We are not doing this right.  We DO love each other.  We DON'T want out!   Oh, one more - we need help.

We agree we need to concentrate not on what we need, but what the other one needs.  Tear down the walls.  Work together, not against.  Listen, not talk.

Let's start new.  Stop looking back.  Learn from today and move on to tomorrow.  All the while putting our marriage in God's hands.

  It will take a miracle for our marriage to withstand these obstacles in life.  Good thing God is in the miracle business!